These are the cleaners that I've tried and liked the results.
Plastic rear window cleaner: Plexus (keeps the easy to scratch rear window clear and streak free)
Wheel cleaner: P21s wheel cleaner, great for clearcoated wheels
Car wash: Sonax Gloss Shampoo, gentle enough to not strip any wax but strong enough to get nice results.
Wax : I have not waxed my car yet but I hear Blitz one grand wax is one of the better ones available. it is 100% carnauba wax, I believe. I have a can ready to go when my existing coat goes away.
In between car washes: Meguiar's quik detailer! I highly recommend this product. Great for the bird droppings you get right after you wash your car. Easy to use. It smells good too!
For Drying: the California Water Blade works well for me.